In the last six years, she has had so many sleepless nights. She's had so many difficult challenges and hurdles. She's been fighting for me and advocating for me, for all those years.
She's worn down.
Her body is starting to suffer, because of all the lifting she does, every day. Her knee is busted. Her back and hips are out of alignment.
She fights to find happiness.
It's not always easy to find the rainbows and silver linings, but she never stops trying.
Mum and Dad are very thoughtful of others and are always quick to offer friendship and support. Mum has made countless care packages. These used to bring her happiness, but there have been too many times when her friendship has gone unnoticed. She's feeling hurt.
She's been sad.
She's been stuck in another trench.
With everything that has happened and everything that she needs to do, each day, when a bad day hits her, it hits her hard.
Her heart has been broken so many times. She can't always keep going.
Sometimes, she hurts.
Sometimes, she is incredibly sad.
Sometimes, the things people do or say (or, don't do or say) really hurt her.
Lately, Mum has been feeling hurt and sad and low.
At these times, I try to give her extra cuddles, but its not always enough.
Mum will always be my carer. She will never just be my Mum.
Mum and Dad will never be able to sleep in and have a lazy morning, letting us kids get up and make our own breakfast. She can't do that, because I can't get up on my own. I can't eat breakfast on my own.
Sometimes, the realisation of how much I need her is overwhelming.
Sometimes, people see how hard and never-ending our life is and they realise they can't stay with us. They leave. That's ok. It happens.
But, sometimes, someone listens to the words we don't actually say. Words saying how hurt and sad we are.
Sometimes, someone sees Mum's sadness and steps up.
Melissa just did that, for Mum. She looked closer at the words Mum wrote. She realised there was a bit more than what Mum was saying. And so, she booked Mum in for a relaxation massage. She was going to pay, but Narelle at Coco Chai Day Spa refused to take her money.
Melissa arranged a full body relaxation massage for Mum.
Narelle gave Mum the massage, without charging any money.
We kept it a secret from Mum, for a few days. She's a bit frightened by surprises, because she has so much she needs to control, in regards to me... But she trusted us. And, so, we sent her for her massage!
And, today, she is having a manicure and a pedicure at Coco Chai Day Spa in Kiama. Narelle is giving her that, too. At Coco Chai, you always feel welcome.
Melissa has always been there for us.
She's part of our family and we love her. She is incredibly busy, at the moment, but she dropped everything and did something lovely, for Mum. She gave Mum back her smile. Thank you!
Narelle has been in our lives for years. She has offered us so much support and has looked after Mum many, many times. She has always been amazing with us and we love her. She gave Mum back her smile. Thank you!
You know how they say it takes a village to raise a child?
Well, it sometimes takes a village to look after an exhausted, overwhelmed and lonely mother of a child with multiple and severe disabilities.
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Medi Spa treatments,
Pedicures and manicures,
CND Shellac treatments.
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