From Dexter's mum:
I've learnt a lot these last few years. I've learnt that it's ok to not be ok.
It's ok to be sad.
It's ok to cry.
It's ok to feel like everything is going against you...
If you need it, ask for help. Don't go through the shit times on your own.
You really never know what people are going through - smiles can hide a lot.
We have been through some really terrible times.
For those of you who have read our posts and watched Dexter's progress, you know a lot of the heartache and worry we have felt.
We've tried to protect you all from the worst of it. But, we know some families look to us, and they deserve our honesty.
We've learned to look after each other.
We've learnt to talk and to listen. That takes a lot of bravery. (Or, a lot of heartache.)
We watch out for each other. We look for signs that things are not so great.
We ask the hard questions.
We have our ways of staying strong.
We swear. A lot. It's therapeutic, for us.
We share crazy, sarcastic photos, memes and jokes.
We laugh at ourselves.
We let ourselves feel... the good, the scary and the sad.
We let ourselves feel the emotions, so we might come out the other side, stronger and braver.
Over the years, we have learnt to stop listening to the comments and judgements made about us. The opinions made by people who don't really know us and don't understand our lives, don't matter. They can say and think what they will.
The people we want in our lives, are the people who see the real us... The people strong enough to walk through the hard, dark days with us. The people who celebrate Dexter and his strengths. The people who are patient and allow us the time to grieve and rage and hide.
Because, life is hard.
You don't have to go through the shit times on your own.
There are people who can help. If you don't have a loved one to reach out to, contact the professionals.
- LifeLine - 13 11 14
- Beyond Blue - 1300 22 4636
- Sane Australia - 1800 18 7263
- Kids Helpline - 1800 551 800
#RUOK
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Dexter's Cerebral Palsy
Dexter's Cancer
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